We grow up being told to not to make up stories or tell stories, right? So when does that change? When does it become acceptable in life to lie to those you know or care about?
Wikipedia says that a lie is “a false statement to a person or group made by another person or group who knows it is not the whole truth, intentionally. Lies can be told for various reasons and with various amounts of success.”
So you tell your boss you’re sick when you call in but maybe the whole truth of that is that you drank too much the night before and are hung over…Seems innocent, but in the end YOU know it’s not the whole truth. 15 years ago I did this…I’m guilty. If you’re really being honest you’ve probably told this lie too.
The fine line is this, don’t make false statements. (Unless you’re my husband, then I expect you to say “No, your butt doesn’t look fat in those jeans/dress/skirt, etc…”) There are all sorts of lies…the little white lie can contain some truth to it but mostly it’s exactly the lie I want to hear from my husband about those jeans…In the end, I’m lying to myself.
Making things up to sound good in a crowd or to make yourself look good do end up coming back to bite you in the Arse…Yep, one day I’m going to have to explain to my youngest daughter that Santa Claus, The Easter Bunny, and The Tooth Fairy were all ME. And that’s gonna suck. But the joy they have in learning to love those things in their hearts and enjoying the time loving all of them as a child makes it a worthwhile white lie to me.
The lies I have a problem with are the ones where out of the horses mouth is one thing then I hear something else from three different people and in the end it never really mattered anyway. I guess the biggest problem with lying is, is it really worth it? Maybe the world would be a better place if we all just told the truth and nothing but the truth?
Surrounding yourself with people that will tell you the truth even when you don’t want to hear it are the best kind of people to know. They shoot straight and don’t fill you up with BS.
The difference is this, sometimes the truth hurts but it makes you a better person…